Wodala ndi yemwe sanamvepo chidani, pamene akumwetulira mwachidwi pa chinthu chomwe chidziwitso ichi chimadziwonetsera. Pali malingaliro angapo omwe angakuthandizeni kuchotsa vutoli, ndilo, momwe mungasiyire kudana ndi munthu.
Izi zimachitika kuti kutuluka kwa chidani kumachitika modzidzimutsa pang'onopang'ono, ndipo chifukwa chake chingakhale zochita kapena mawu a munthu wina. Muzochitika zotere, mkwiyo ndi kukwiya zingathe kuwonjezeka pazaka zambiri, potero kumatembenukira mwa munthu amene amadana ndi anthu.
Udani ndi kumverera kosokoneza, kupereka mphamvu zambiri, kulunjika ku mbali yolakwika.
Udani ukhoza kuvulaza munthu amene amadana nawo, motero amawuwonetsa iwo ku zotsatira zowononga. Matenda ambiri amthupi ndi aumphawi amayamba chifukwa chakumverera koopsya.
Kodi mungasiye bwanji kudana ndi mwamuna wanu wakale?
Kuti muchotse malingaliro a chidani, muyenera kuzindikira chomwe chimayambitsa zochitika zake. Simungangodana ndi anthu. Ukadakhala wokwera mtengo komanso wopatsa mtima, udapatsa chikondi ndi chimwemwe , ndipo nthawi ina zonse zinasiya. Zifukwa izi zingakhale zosiyana kwambiri.
Pambuyo pozindikira zifukwa, nkofunikira kulingalira ngati munthu akanatha kuchita mosiyana. Kuti muchite izi, ndi bwino kudziyika nokha pamalo ake. Mwinamwake iye analibe kusankha kwina. Zili zovuta kumvetsa ndi kukhululukirana kunyozedwa ndi kuchititsidwa manyazi, koma nthawi zambiri chitukuko sichinachoke chifukwa chakuti mwamunayo adachita zinthu zosasangalatsa, koma chifukwa mkaziyo amamulola kuchita zimenezo. Pambuyo povomera izi ndikuzindikira, yankho la funso la momwe mungaleke kudana ndi mwamuna lidzabwera lokha.
Udani umakhudza munthu aliyense. Ndipo yemwe amadana ali ndi mavuto a thanzi. Sizingatheke kufotokozera zakukhosi kwanu ku chidani, choncho ndikofunikira kwambiri kuti mugonjetse ndikusiya zinthu zakale.