Ku Russia, malingaliro a makolo pokwanitsa mgwirizano waukwati wa ana akhala nthawi zonse. Ngati makolo adziwa kuti mwana wawo akufuna kukwatira msungwana, adayesa kumuchotsa ngati ali ndi woyenera. Zoona, mwachibadwa, makolo sakanakhoza kuumiriza, kungokakamiza, koma popanda ubwino wa ukwati ukwati wa mpingo unkawonekere kukhala wosavomerezeka.
Kupanga - miyambo
Kukonza ndi sitepe yoyamba kumoyo wachikulire wa mkwati ndi mkwatibwi. Malingana ndi miyambo ya matchmaking, ankaganiza kuti miyamboyi, lero miyambo iwiriyi yaphatikizidwa.
Miyambo yowonongeka ndi mbali ya mkwatiyo yophika pansi kufika pamaso a matchmakers: bambo wa mkwati, mulungu wamulungu ndi mkulu. Nthawi zina, iwo anali ochita masewera - mkazi wotopetsa, yemwe anali wotchuka chifukwa cha kukwanitsa kwake kukambirana.
Kuchokera kumbali ya mkwatibwi wokonza maseŵera akhoza kukhala mayi wamng'ono, mulungu wake kapena mlongo wake.
Ngati mumatchula zinthu mwa mayina awo, matchmaking ndizopambana pakati pa mabanja awiri. Banja la mkwati likuyesera kupeza zambiri "zopindulitsa", mkwatibwi wopatsidwa ndi dowry, ndipo banja la mkwatibwi likufuna kupeza ndalama zochulukirapo za dipo la mkwatibwi.
Miyeso ya matchmaking
Miyambo ndi miyambo ya matchmaking inachititsa ngakhale nthawi yomweyi. Zinali zofunikira kupanga ukwati madzulo a Lachinayi, Lachiwiri ndi Loweruka. Kwa nthawi yoyamba, wochita masewerowa ankakanidwa mkwati, ngati kupereka mwana wake mofulumira kwambiri ankawoneka ngati mawonekedwe oipa.
Pa nthawi yomweyi, padali mawu akuti: "Mkwati wochepa adzawonetsa njira yabwino" - kukana woyamba kubwera, makolo adakali ndi chiyembekezo chofunika kwambiri.
Choyamba chokwera maseŵera chinali chosadziwika. Akani makolo a mkwatibwi akhoza kuti adziwe bwino banja la mkwati. Kwa nthawi yachiwiri (kale kale), phwando la chikondwerero linayikidwa, mkwatibwi anali kukonzekera mphatso, mabanja onse adasonkhana.
Apa malonda anayamba: ngati makolo a mkwatibwi adagwirizana kuti apereke mwana wawo wamkazi, mabanjawa anayamba kuvomereza osati pa tsiku lokha, koma ndi gawo la ndalama zochita chikondwerero, ndipo mkwati adayenera kupanga "chopereka" choyambirira.