Kukhala kholo ndi chiyeso chachikulu. Zokwanira za mwanayo, kusamvera kwake, madandaulo a aphunzitsi ndi ena ... - "Ndiuzeni chifukwa chake samadandaula za Vaska, koma Constantine wanga ..."
Ndimphindi zingati zosasangalatsa zomwe zimayenera kudutsa, pamene nkofunikira kuyankha osati zawo zokha, komanso zochita za anthu ena. Njira yokhayo kutulukira ndiyo kuphunzitsa. Koma bwanji? Mu miyambo yakale ya ku England, komwe kwa chilango cha wophunzira wosamvera, aphunzitsi ankagwiritsa ntchito zingwe zapadera za rattan, zomwe zinagunda manja ndi mabowo a olakwa? Kugwiritsa ntchito njira "yachikhalidwe" yolanga mwana ndi lamba? Kapena mwa kuumiriza maganizo?
Bwanji osalanga ana ndi lamba?
Mwamtheradi a psychologist onse a ana amayankha funso "kodi n'zotheka kumenyana ndi ana ndi zingwe?" Ndizolakwika. Kuwaza ana osamvera sikuti kumabweretsa zotsatira zake (mwachitsanzo, sizimaphunzitsa chilichonse), komanso zimakhudza kwambiri mapangidwe a khalidwe la mwanayo komanso kudzidalira kwake. Komanso, ziribe kanthu momwe kholo limadzichitira nkhanza ndi chida chowombera m'manja mwake, chilango chirichonse "m'mitima" ndi umboni wosakhala wamphamvu, koma, mosiyana, za kufooka kwake. Kulingalira kwa mwanayo kumamuuza nthawi zonse za izo.
Ngati si lamba, ndiye bwanji?
Maphunziro ndi othandiza osati ngati kholo lokwiyira likutsanulira "chifuwa" pamutu mwa mwana wake kapena, popanda kudziletsa yekha, "amasamalira mphete", koma ngati ali ndi mawu amtendere, omwe alibe mthunzi wa mkwiyo, akufotokoza momwe angachitire bwino, koma momwe mungachitire izo sizothandiza.
Monga "mkangano wogwira mtima", musamayese "kuwamvera chisoni" ndikukuuzani kuti mukuchita manyazi ndi zochita zawo (izi sizingathandize mwana kuthana ndi vutoli, koma zingangowonjezera mavuto ake ndi kuchepetsa chikhulupiriro chanu). Zopindulitsa kwambiri zingakhale zazizira "ngati ..., ndiye ...". "Ngati simukutsuka chipinda chanu kamodzi pa sabata, sindingakupatseni ndalama kugula masewera atsopano, omwe munandiuza za dzulo," - choncho, mwakachetechete komanso mosadzidalira, mungathe kunena bambo kwa mwana wake ndipo kwa nthawi yoyamba "kubweretsa nkhaniyo kumapeto" - kusunga mawu ake. Kumbukirani kuti poyamba zinthuzi siziyenera kukhala zoposa masiku atatu, ndipo kukhazikitsa zomwe zalonjezedwa ndizofunikira ndi 100%.
Zogwira mtima kwambiri kuposa chilango chachinyengo ndi kupsinjika maganizo, pali kukambirana ndi mwanayo ngati wamkulu. Yesani!