Muzojambula zamtundu, mungapeze malemba amphwando, chastushki, mawu ndi nyimbo polemekeza masewera. Inde, mwambo wa matchmaking uyenera kukhala wosangalatsa, wolemera komanso wabwino, ngakhale pambuyo pake, makolo a mkwatibwi ndi kuika pa khonde la nkhumba.
Masiku akale, mwinamwake chiopsezo chachikulu cha ntchito yonseyi chinali dowry - zifuwa zojambula manja za mkwatibwi, chuma chochokera kwa abambo, mbale, zojambula, mipando ndi chirichonse. Zinali za dowry zomwe mabanja a mkwati ndi wokambirana naye amaganiza, pamene mutuwo unakhudzidwa, momwe mwambo wa ukwati udzakhalire. Pambuyo pochita zambiri kuti mupeze "katundu", zikuluzikulu zidzakhala malipiro awo.
Mwambo wamakono waukwati, pamene mutu wa chisakasa cha mkwatibwi sungakhudzidwe, mungathe kuganizira za nthabwala, phwando ndi luso lochita zinthu kuti mugwirizane ndi kutsika mtengo wa kusowa kwa mkwatibwi.
Zambiri
Mwinamwake, kukonzekera kwambiri kwa mwambo wa matchmaking ukuchitika ndi mkwati. Mkwati, omanga masewera, ndi makolo a mkwati ayenera kubwera ku nyumba ya mkwatibwi. Ndi iwo, ayenera kubweretsa mphatso, komanso mkate ndi mchere malinga ndi mwambo wakale.
Chirichonse chimayamba ndi mafunso osalunjika ndikutamanda mkwati ndi matchmaking. Kenaka amayang'ana ku mafunso okhudza mkwatibwi: "Ndi zabwino?", "Kodi ndizochuma?", "Wochenjera, wokoma mtima, wodzichepetsa"?
Pa gawo la mkwatibwi, miyambo ya matchmaking, makamaka, ikutanthawuza kutamanda "katundu", ndiko kuti, akwatibwi. Makolo kapena matchmakers ayenera kusonyeza kuti pa tebulo lolemera, zokometsera zokometsera zonse zakonzekera izo. Tifunika kusonyeza kuti amasula, kugoka, mitedza, kukoka, ndi zina zotero.
Nthawi yonseyi, mkwatibwi akukhala mwakachetechete m'chipinda chake, ndipo, ndithudi, ali bwino. Kufananitsa mkwatibwi ndi wokwera mtengo komanso wamtengo wapatali, koma pa nthawi yomweyi, ayenera kuyang'ana molakwika. Kalekale izo zinachitika kuti pa masewera onsewo mkwati ndi mkwatibwi sakanakhoza kugwira manja ngakhale, iwo sakanakhoza kukhala moyandikana wina ndi mzake. Kodi tinganene chiyani za kugwirizana kwa madzulo otsatirawa?
Makolo akaitana mkwatibwi patebulo, zikutanthauza kuti apolisi a mkwati akupempha kuti asonyeze "katundu". Tsopano okonza mgwirizano wa mkwati ayenera kufunsa mafunso ovuta pa zomwe mkwatibwi amachita zokhudza nyumba, momwe amakhalira ndi zomwe amakonda. Iwo, pokwaniritsa mtengo, akhoza kumupempha kuti adye chakudya kuchokera ku njira zosayenera, kusamba pansi, keke mkate , kuyika pa tebulo. Ndipo tsoka kwa mkwatibwi uyo yemwe sanagwirizane ndi zopempha za matchmakers!
Mwina chinthu chokondweretsa kwambiri pamasewero amakono ndikuti, ndipamwamba kwambiri kutsanzira miyambo yakale, mkwati, mkwatibwi ndi mabanja awo amadziwa kuti zonsezi ndi nthabwala-kuvina, ndipo, ngakhale kuti mkate wa mkwatibwi ukuwotchedwa bwanji, dzungu silidzafika pofika pomwepo .