Maubale a ana a ana

Umunthu wa munthu, khalidwe lake ndi malingaliro ake kwa ena zimayikidwa ali mwana. Zimadalira momwe makolo amalerera mwana wawo, mofulumira komanso mosavuta kuti azitha kukhala pakati pa anthu, komanso momwe moyo wake udzapitilire.

Komanso, chikhalidwe cha maubwenzi a ana chimakhudzidwa ndi miyambo yotengedwa m'banjamo, komanso momwe amaleredwera. Tidzayesa kumvetsetsa nkhaniyi mwatsatanetsatane.

Mitundu ya ubale wa kholo la ana

Pali mitundu yambiri ya maubwenzi omwe angabwere pakati pa makolo ndi ana a mibadwo yosiyana. Komabe, akatswiri a zamaganizo amagwiritsa ntchito gulu la Diana Bombrind, lomwe limangotengera machitidwe 4 okha a maubwenzi a ana, omwe ali ndi zochitika zake zokha:

1. Chizoloŵezi chovomerezeka ndicho chokondweretsa kwambiri, popeza ana omwe amaleredwa m'mabanja omwe ali ndi khalidwe la makololi amatha kusintha mosavuta kusintha, kuphunzira bwino, kukhala odzidalira mokwanira ndipo nthawi zambiri amapindula. Pankhaniyi, banja lili ndi udindo waukulu wa makolo, womwe umakhudzidwa ndi chikondi ndi chikondi kwa achinyamata. Zikatero, ana amazindikira mwakuya malire ndi zoletsedwa kwa iwo ndipo samaganizira zochita za makolo awo mopanda chilungamo.
2. Ndondomeko yaumwini imadziwika ndi mphamvu zapamwamba za makolo komanso kuzizira kwa amayi ndi abambo kwa mwanayo. Pachifukwa ichi, makolo salola kuti kukambirana kapena kukwanitsa zofunikira zawo, asalole ana kuti azisankha okha ndipo nthawi zambiri amapezekanso kuti anawo azidalira. Ana amene amaleredwa m'mabanja oterewa nthawi zambiri amalankhula momasuka, mowa komanso mwamphamvu. Pokhala ndi ubale wotere wa kholo la ana ali mwana, nthawi zambiri mavuto aakulu amayamba chifukwa chakuti mwanayo ndi wosiyana kwambiri ndi akuluakulu, amakhala osasinthasintha ndipo nthawi zambiri amakumana ndi mavuto.
3. Chikhalidwe chaufulu chimasiyana ndi njira zina zoyankhulirana pakati pa makolo ndi ana omwe ali ndi mtima wopanda malire ndi chikondi chosadziwika. Ngakhale izi, zikuoneka, sizowonongeka, zenizeni, pakakhala izi, nthawi zambiri zimakhala zovomerezeka, zomwe zimayambitsa chilakolako chokwanira komanso khalidwe losayenera la ana.
4. Potsiriza, machitidwe osayanjanirana a maubwenzi a ana amasiye amadziwika ndi kusowa kwathunthu ndi chidwi pa moyo wa mwana kuchokera kwa makolo. Kaŵirikaŵiri izi zimachitika m'mabanja omwe amayi ndi abambo amagwira ntchito kwambiri ndipo sangapeze nthawi ya ana awo.

Inde, makolo onse amapereka chisankho cha maphunziro omwe ali pafupi nawo. Pakalipano, kuti ubale wa makolo akhale wodalirika, ngakhale pa msinkhu wa msinkhu wa msinkhu, nkofunikira kudzipangira yekha udindo woyenera wa makolo komanso nthawi imodzi kuti musaiwale kufunikira kolimbikitsa ndi kum'tamanda mwanayo, komanso kumusonyeza nthawi zonse chikondi chake. Pokhapokha pazifukwa zotero mwanayo adzadzimva kuti ndi kofunika, chifukwa chake adzakhazikitsa malingaliro abwino kwa makolo ndi achibale ena apamtima.