Pamene potsiriza tili ndi ubale wolimba, ndife okonzeka kuwuluka ndi chimwemwe, komabe-ndizo - zokhazo zomwe zimapezeka. Koma nthawi imadutsa, ndipo tikuzindikira kuti ubalewu si wofanana ndi poyamba, iwo anali ndi mtundu wina wosiyana. Kodi ndiyenera kuchita chiyani ngati mwamuna wanga akuzizira? Choyamba kumvetsetsa chifukwa chake ubale wabwerera, chabwino, ndikukonzerani mwamsanga vutoli.
Nchifukwa chiani bamboyu akuzizira?
Momwe mungamvetsetse chifukwa chake munthu watentha, ndi chifukwa chiyani? Pano, popanda kusinkhasinkha kwakukulu sungakhoze kuchita, kumbukirani pamene iwo anayamba kuzindikira kusintha kwa maganizo a wokondedwa kwa iyemwini. Ndipo pa maziko a izi, ganizirani za zomwe zingayambitse kutentha kwa chibwenzi.
- "Ndiyenera kuchita chiyani, mwamuna wanga wandidzudzula?" - inu mukukumana nazo. Kodi izi zilidi choncho? Mwinamwake chifukwa cha kudandaula kuti ndizozizira ndiye kuti nthawi zonse kutopa, mavuto omwe amagwira ntchito, omwe mwamuna wanu sakufuna kugawana nanu chifukwa chakuti amateteza banja lawo pazinthu zopanda pake?
- Ngati munthu wokondedwayo akuzizira, chinthu choyamba chimene chimabwera m'maganizo ndikuti ali ndi wina. Chochita ichi sichifunikira, mwinamwake wina kumbali ndikuwoneka, koma mpaka tsopano muli ndi malingaliro osadziwika bwino. Kodi chifukwa chake chingakhale mwa inu? Kumbukirani zomwe munali pachiyambi cha chiyanjano ndi zomwe muli tsopano. Pali kusintha, ndipo sizili bwino, molondola? Inu simusamala kwambiri za maonekedwe, ndipo mumalingalira kuti ndinu ofunika, osati njira yosonyezera malingaliro anu, ndipo chofunikira kwambiri, ubale unayamba kukhala ndi khalidwe locheka: "Ndinakukwiyitsani borsch, ndipo munandipatsa kanthu kena."
- Kawirikawiri amayi amazindikira kuti zonse zasintha atabereka. Mwamuna amamvetsera kwambiri mkazi wake, mwa kuyankhula kwina, watentha. Musangoganiza kuti iye anasiya kukukondani. Kuwonekera kwa mwana ndiyeso osati kwa inu nokha, koma kwa mwamuna, amafunikanso kuphunzira kukhala moyo watsopano. Ndipo mwana wamng'ono amatenga mbali ya mphamvu ya mkango ndi nthawi, makolo achichepere kawirikawiri sapeza mphamvu kuti azilankhula "usiku wabwino" wina ndi mnzake.
Bwanji ngati munthu wokondedwayo akuzizira?
Chabwino, ndicho chifukwa chake malingaliro akhala atakhazikika pansi, akukonzekera, akudalire kuti asankhe zoyenera kuchita ndi zonsezi. Ngati mwamuna watopa kuntchito, watentha chifukwa cha maonekedwe anu kapena chifukwa cha kubwezeretsedwa m'banja, muzochitika zina zomwe muyenera kuyankhula naye. Banja losangalala ndi zotsatira za ntchito ya okwatirana, choncho thandizo la mwamuna silingakhale lopanda pake. Yesetsani kuchotsa zolemba zonyansa kuchokera ku mawu anu, kuyankhula ndi mwamuna wanu modekha, mufunseni zomwe zikumuvutitsa. Ngati munthu asiya zokambiranazo, musamuumirire, kwa nthawi ndithu, kubwezeretsani zokambiranazo ndikuyese kuyambanso masiku pang'ono. Mukamayankhula naye, mukumvetsa ngati iwo ali ndi zolingalira zawo kapena amangodzidzimutsa okha nkhani zoopsya, chifukwa iwo omwe sanagone usiku.
- Ntchito inayendetsa ndalama zambiri, mutu ukutenga, apa pali mwamuna ndi nyumba nanu nelaskov. Ndiyenera kuchita chiyani? Muthandizeni kudutsa malo ovuta awa, kuleza mtima pang'ono, ndipo zonse zidzakhala bwino. Pewani zofuna zanu kwa mwamuna, tsopano akusowa chithandizo chanu kusiyana ndi malingaliro ndi kusintha kutsutsa.
- Kodi mumadziwa nthabwala zoterezi "Ndingakwatire mwamsanga mwamsanga, kapena ayi ndatopa ndikudziyang'anira"? Zindikirani kuti likukhudzana bwanji ndi inu? M'malo mwake mudzikonze nokha, ndipo pakapita kanthawi mukhale mkazi wodolola muvala wonyezimira komanso okhala ndi tsitsi losatha pamutu pake. Ndipo pewani kupanga scandals nthawi iliyonse, ndikukhulupirira ine, mu caress ya munthu zimakhala bwino kwambiri.
Nthawi zina mawu amodzi angapindule zomwe sangazipeze mothandizidwa ndi kunyozedwa ndi kuwopsezedwa. - Mu banja lanu munali mwana, ndipo mwamuna sali wachifundo kwambiri? Dikirani, chirichonse chidzagwira ntchito, ndipo pambali, mwinamwake izi ndi gawo la kulakwitsa kwanu? Chochitika cha vuto la postpartum ndi chachilendo ndipo, ndithudi, okondedwa anu akuyenera kukuthandizani ndi izi, koma ngati simukufuna kuchoka mudziko lino, ndiye ndani amene akudzudzula kuti mumasintha maganizo anu? Ndipo simungakhale otopa, kubwera kuchokera kuntchito, kuti musagonjetse mwanayo, komanso ndi amatsenga a theka lachiwiri, choncho ngakhale mmalo moyamikira mumalandira zonyansa zosatha?