Paunyamata, chofunika kwambiri chimapezedwa ndi dongosolo la maubwenzi ndi malo oyandikana nawo ndi zachikhalidwe, zomwe zimaperekanso malangizo a kukula kwa maganizo a mwana. Zisonyezero za unyamata zimatsimikiziridwa ndi zochitika zenizeni za chikhalidwe ndi kusintha malo a mwana wachinyamata mmudzi. Mnyamata akulowa mu ubale watsopano ndi dziko lachikulire ndipo, chifukwa chake, udindo wake m'banja, sukulu, pa kusintha kwa msewu. M'banjamo, amapatsidwa ntchito zowonjezera, ndipo iye mwini amayesetsa kuchita zambiri za "akuluakulu", kutsanzira khalidwe la achikulire okalamba. Tanthauzo la lingaliro la chikhalidwe cha achinyamata likuphatikizapo kugonana komwe kumapangidwira pakati pa anthu, malingaliro ndi zoyenera zomwe zimapangidwira kuti munthu apite patsogolo. Kulankhulana ndi chikhalidwe cha anthu, achinyamata amayesetsa kukhala ndi ndondomeko, zolinga ndi njira zawo, kukhazikitsa zoyenera kuziyesa okha ndi ena.
Chikhalidwe cha achinyamata achinyamata
| Achinyamata | |
|---|---|
| 〖 Lachitatu lotsatira (banja, achibale, abwenzi, anzanu a m'kalasi) | ↘ malo otalika (oyandikana nawo, ofalitsa, intaneti, ophunzira a sukulu) |
| ↓ zimakhudza mwachindunji (kulankhulana, kukambirana, zochita, chitsanzo) | ↓ ali ndi zotsatira zolakwika (zabodza, kusintha, zochita) |
Muzochitika zachikhalidwe kusukulu ndi kunyumba, chikhalidwe chotsatira chimakhudza kwambiri zochita, malingaliro ndi malingaliro a mwanayo: amamvetsera maganizo a makolo, amalankhula bwino ndi abwenzi. Ngati wachinyamata sakupeza kumvetsetsa pakati pa anthu omwe akukhalapo, ndiye kuti malo akutali (dziko la alendo) akhoza kuthandizira kwambiri malingaliro, malingaliro ndi makhalidwe a mwanayo kusiyana ndi anthu ochokera mkati. Zopitirira kuchokera kwa mwanayo pali mndandanda wa zokambirana, ndizosavuta kuzikhulupilira. Makolo kapena sukulu, omwe pazifukwa zina amakayikira achinyamata, sangathe kukhulupilira.
Zotsatira za chikhalidwe cha achinyamata pa achinyamata
Akatswiri a zamaganizo amanena kuti kudzidalira kwa mwanayo kumalo amtundu wa anthu kumakhala kotheka. Mwa zochita zake zonse ndi zochita zake, mwanayo akuyang'ana kumudzi.
Chifukwa cha udindo ndi kuvomereza, achinyamata amatha kupereka nsembe zopupuluma, kulowerera mkangano ndi anthu apamtima, kusintha miyezo yawo.
Zomwe anthu angakhalire nazo zingakhudze mwanayo, zabwino komanso zoipa. Mphamvu za chikhalidwe cha anthu zimadalira ulamuliro wa ophunzira komanso achinyamata.
| Zotsatira zabwino | Chikoka choipa |
|---|---|
| • Masewera, kutenga nawo mbali pazochita zamasewera, zosangalatsa zatsopano; | • Kupeza zizolowezi zoipa (kusuta, mowa); |
| • kukhazikitsidwa kwa ubale; | • kupeza ndi kulimbikitsa makhalidwe oipa; |
| • Kupeza ndi kulimbikitsa makhalidwe abwino; | • kutsanzira atsogoleri osadziwika; |
| • Kupititsa patsogolo maphunziro. | • kuwonongeka kwa maphunziro. |
Chikoka choyankhulana ndi anzanu pa achinyamata
Ponena za mphamvu ya chikhalidwe cha anthu pa kukhazikitsidwa kwa umunthu ndi khalidwe la mwana, munthu ayenera kulingalira zachindunji cha kulankhulana ndi anzako.
Kuyankhulana n'kofunika pa zifukwa zingapo:
- chitsimikizo;
- chiyanjano;
- maganizo.
Mawonetseredwe akunja a khalidwe loyankhulana amachokera pa zotsutsana: payekha mwanayo akufuna kukhala "ngati wina aliyense," ndipo zina, zilizonse, amayesetsa kuwonetsa bwino.
Mphamvu yoyankhulana ndi makolo pa achinyamata
Paunyamata, njira yothetsera mwana wachinyamata kuchokera kwa makolo imayamba ndipo ufulu wodzisankhira ulipo. M'nthaŵi ya kusintha, kudalira kwa makolo kumayamba kuyesa mwanayo, ndipo akufuna kupanga chiyanjano chatsopano, chomwe chili pakati pake. Achinyamata amapanga dongosolo lawo labwino, lomwe nthawi zambiri limakhala losiyana kwambiri ndi limene makolo amatsatira. Chifukwa cha chidziwitso chodziŵika ndi zomwe akudziwa, mwanayo ali ndi chofunikira chodziwitsa umunthu wake ndi malo ake pakati pa anthu.
Kuti athandize mwanayo kuti azitha kusintha moyenera kwa anthu, chilengedwechi chiyenera kukhala chosasinthasintha komanso choyenera.